After thirteen years of marriage, a woman’s world is turned upside down when her husband abruptly asks to be taken out of her life and plots a dramatic cross-country move—all the while keeping a secret that might completely alter everything. She discovers a covert relationship with an old friend, but what transpires next places her in an unexpected predicament.
On February 3, 2024, a mysterious woman posted a captivating poster detailing how her 13-year marriage took an unexpected turn. Her husband, who had initially seemed pleased with his work, later became irate and declared that he was going to apply for a job across the country.
Not long after this announcement came an unexpectedly direct and frank recommendation. “He went on a tirade about how terrible I am and out of nowhere suggested a separation,” read the Original Poster (OP). Even though they’d experienced ups and downs in the past, she felt that this response was overly dramatic and unfounded.
Over the next few weeks, OP was informed of her husband’s extensive interaction with a former acquaintance who had recently gone through a divorce and who had been instrumental in helping him secure this potential employment. They exchanged more than 500 SMS messages a day, or almost 24,000 texts in a single month, demonstrating how intense their communication was.
The overwhelming majority of the online comments on OP’s post were critical, calling her a “NTA” for the decisions and actions she took in the face of her husband’s betrayal and cunning plans.
The husband’s plan was extremely clear: he was going to relocate the entire family, including the OP, his mother, and their two elementary-aged children. When OP made this decision, she took into account all of the sacrifices she had made in the past, such as moving for his graduate program and current job. She expressed her dismay, saying, “Moving away from the kids’ school and friends, as well as my work and friends, is unconscionable.”
The tension increased when her spouse traveled to the potential workplace for what was supposed to be a one-day interview but ended up taking four days. At this point, OP came across information that seemed to suggest he planned to establish a sexual relationship.
Upon his return, he justified his claim that he had been “unhappy for 15 years” when questioned. When OP found out about this, she started to question if it was her fault because she had considered divorcing and requesting physical possession of their kids so they could remain in the state.
Her spouse emphasized the need for the children to have their father present, citing his own experience of growing up without one, and claimed that she was required for the children’s welfare.
The overwhelming majority of the online comments on OP’s post were critical, calling her a “NTA” for the decisions and actions she took in the face of her husband’s betrayal and cunning plans. Her online community rallied around her, offering advice and context-specific analysis.
One commentator stated, “He’s upset because he lost his leverage when you found out and hired a lawyer.” It appears that his plan was to move all of you and then anchor those kids to his new location. You and the kids were left stranded. Wonderful work! Without a doubt, you are NTA!
Meanwhile, someone else spoke the words “Nta. He doesn’t get to ruin everyone’s life because he is having an affair and doesn’t want to cause trouble for anyone.
A third voice answered, “NTA-no way would I move just for him to divorce you when you move.” Definitely get a divorce as soon as possible before he gives up his job.
What are your thoughts on this story? Is it appropriate for the spouse of the individual in question to desire to be apart from his spouse and to put pressure on her to move across the country for him? How would you react to the situation if you were in the position of the OP? Would you agree with the husband’s decision or not?
